I have been missing the 'old' me lately. I feel like I used to have all these great thoughts and dreams and now I am just trying to survvie each day with all of us in one piece, no collection agencies calling us and not so many dirty dishes in the sink that the health department will be called.I read a book last week that really resonated with me. It's called A Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety by Judith Warner. It talks a great deal about how we think we have so many choices, but really we have none. Once Ben was born I had to decide whether to give up my 'career' completely or just part time. The daycare alone costs so much money that it barely seems worth it. There weren't many choices involved. Anyway, I would suggest all women struggling with 'balance' might find this a good read. Unfortunately, Ms. Warner doesn't give any suggestions how to change things, but at least she offers a shoulder to cry on.